Do what I want without consequence

One thing that has surprised me on this side of my transition is that many times when people find out I'm no longer a Christian, they think it has something to do with justification of my own actions so I wont have to think about eternal consequences.
I still get comments that I'm angry with God or disappointed in him somehow, which is certainly not the case, though. I would have to believe in a biblical God to feel something toward him. It would be like stubbing my toe on the couch leg and being angry at the couch, except I'm imagining the couch, and maybe my toe. 

My life is going pretty well I think and I'm genuinely happy, so for me that's enough to prove those aren't the causes. So, what is it that others imagine I am doing in my life, which is so important to me, that it would cause me to profess unbelief in order to "get away" with it? Do they think I eat babies in my free time? I certainly wouldn't have forsaken God so I could be more comfortable telling white lies or so I could think inappropriate thoughts, because it can all be forgiven, so I have to assume they imagine a my life as filled with sin and no remorse, and not your regular run of the mill type sin.
I'm not even sure I want to imagine all the possibilities.

In reality what has changed most in my life is that it freed up a lot of time I was spending in church or preparing for church events. It seems like I still do quite a bit of studying to be sure, but I'm no longer proselytizing.

I haven't turned to drugs or alcohol. I haven't murdered anyone, robbed a bank, or picked up any prostitutes.

As a Christian I always thought I would go off the rails without a biblical compass. I imagined I would spiral out of control with debauchery and that may be what others think, but I think the question stems from elsewhere.

First, I think that as a Christian I only understood morality from the Bible. I could always look to the Bible to provide me with some sort of answer on almost anything with the right interpretation. But that made it difficult to understand morality on a multidimensional plane. Not only that, it made it easier for me to tell myself others were running from God. After all, if they really didn't believe in God, why didn't they just go crazy in self indulgence? I really thought without eternal consequences, there wasn't much reason to not do whatever you wanted. 

This isn't how it really works though. I have a lot of responsibilities and I work hard to live up to my own expectations of who I should be.

I think the thoughts also come from a need for Christians to justify how I could leave the faith.

It's truly difficult to accept something outside of your frame of reference. I didn't understand someone who simply didn't believe in God because my thoughts were filled with a Biblical understanding of everything around me. It was only when the evidence was overwhelming that I could realize I was wrong, and that maybe this whole universe is a happy accident (in artistic terms here.) I still don't know the answer to that big question, but asserting an answer on it doesn't make it so.

In the end, I think it's unfair for people to put these assumptions on me, but I understand why.

They refuse to believe I could be right. If I left solely because the evidence speaks opposite of what I once believed, it means there is good reason to doubt the basis of their life. 

I think it's fair to stand your ground on faith as it permeates your life, I was once there and I thought all these things about others, either to defend my position or convince myself there was no reasonable evidence to the contrary of my belief. 

It worked, until my eyes were opened through real world evidence. But maybe I have been fooled and maybe this idea comes directly from the Bible.

II Thessalonians 2

11 For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie 12 and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness.

Well, I don't think I "delight in wickedness", but now that I've brought the verse up I would like to say that being persuaded by an omnipotent being of a lie so I can be condemned for eternity really doesn't seem fair, just or righteous by any moral standard. At least the verse may explain why I get this question.

I try my best not to put my own ideas of motivation on others and situations like these are a good reminder to myself to be a good listener. Knowing someone is always more worth while than thinking I know them through assumptions.